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    If I do this I’m not expecting you to know the answer, I just want to discuss our thoughts. What’s wrong with that?

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      What’s wrong with that?

      Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical. You aren’t the only person in the world. We’re both watching the movie and we’re both equally as confused. When you ask those questions what you’re doing is interrupting the movie for someone else to demand an explanation for yourself. An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused. Other people are watching the movie too. Interrupting it to try and get answers for yourself is some narcissistic behavior, especially when you’re in a movie theater with shitloads of other people around you.

      Moreover, during the middle of the movie is not the place to have a discussion. People are trying to watch it and enjoy it, not listen to some breakdown about the events so far. If you want to have those discussions then keep it for after the movie when attention can be properly given to the discussion, not a half whispered response in a tone of “Dude, can you shut up?”

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        Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical.

        I can imagine coming over to a friend’s place or to a date and just sitting there in absolute silence watching a movie instead of you know, hanging out and talking stuff

        Your friend is probably more interesting in hanging out with you than strictly watching a movie lol

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        An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused.

        Did you read my comment? I said I don’t expect you to know the answer, I just want to hear your thoughts. If you don’t want to talk during movies then watch them alone.

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            Because it’s insanely inconsiderate and extremely egotistical. You aren’t the only person in the world. We’re both watching the movie and we’re both equally as confused.

            I don’t expect you to be less confused, I don’t expect you to know the answer

            When you ask those questions what you’re doing is interrupting the movie for someone else to demand an explanation for yourself.

            Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

            An explanation you will not get as, again, both of us are confused.

            Again, I don’t expect you to know the answer

            Other people are watching the movie too. Interrupting it to try and get answers for yourself is some narcissistic behavior, especially when you’re in a movie theater with shitloads of other people around you.

            Lmao do you think I would be screaming that question throughout the entire theatre?

            If you want to have those discussions then keep it for after the movie

            It’s not about a discussion it’s about speculation. There’s no point in speculation when the movie is over, all answers are given unless if there’s a second movie coming.

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              Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

              Ah right, of course, because exposition only happens in scenes with dialog. The non-dialog scenes are just there purely for looks.

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              Honestly, how difficult is it for you to just keep your mouth from opening for ~90 minutes?

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              I don’t expect you to be less confused, I don’t expect you to know the answer

              Then the discussion is not relevant in the moment and can be saved until after the movie when you are not actively disrupting the movie for other people.

              Of course I wouldn’t talk during a dialogue, only during non-dialogue scenes

              What you find personally enjoyable is not universal. While you may focus heavily on dialogue, other people do not. Moreover, things that are in non-dialogue scenes can be just as important, if not VITALLY important, to the movie as dialogue itself. By your logic, every other part of the movie that does not include dialogue is irrelevant to the movie and doesn’t require attention.

              Again, I don’t expect you to know the answer

              Then the discussion is not relevant in the moment and can be saved until after the movie when you are not actively disrupting the movie for other people.

              Lmao do you think I would be screaming that question throughout the entire theatre?

              People are sitting around you on all sides. Unless there is no one near you, then you are going to disrupt the movie for them. There is a reason the trope exists of people saying “SHHH!” to other people talking quietly in movies. It’s because they have ears and can hear you.

              It’s not about a discussion it’s about speculation. There’s no point in speculation when the movie is over, all answers are given unless if there’s a second movie coming.

              Speculation requires you to talk to the other person and for them to talk back to you. You know. Like a discussion. If you’re not expecting a response at all then it just circles back to the point of egotistical and narcissistic by assuming that everyone around you thinks that your idle musings about a movie are more entertaining than the movie itself.

              This entire conversation is pointless and I’m not continuing it any further. What you’re advocating for is some nastygirl behavior that is utterly inconsiderate of everyone else. Let me reflect that energy right back by no longer considering anything you say.

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        Makes for a bit of a boring hangout if you both just sit silently there through the movie. At that point might as well watch it separately and then get together to discuss it.

        Cinema being different of course, you’re not supposed to talk there to begin with

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          Different strokes for different folks I guess. If you like talking during the movie that’s fine, just don’t do it with other people that prefer quiet.

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            I haven’t had anyone invite me over to sit in complete silence yet but I wouldn’t imagine those people want people to come over anyway.

            The problem solves itself hah

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              Yeah everyone in this thread probably being too literal, myself included lol.

              Like, I’m not gonna get mad if someone makes a quick comment or quip during a movie. I’m not asking people to sit there in silence with absolutely no interaction while the movie plays. I’m just asking people to not try and start and maintain a conversation while the movie is playing, which I think is reasonable.

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      Not to say it’s objectively wrong, but if it’s someone like me that you’re watching a movie with, I generally expect quiet. A comment here and there is probably fine in the right context, but constantly breaking into conversation mid-movie is a distraction I don’t really appreciate. Generally, I think it’s important to understand the expectations of everyone involved.

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        yeah sure if they ask me to be quiet I’ll be quiet but then I don’t see the point anymore of watching the movie together

        and yes generally it’s just a few comments but some people can’t even stand that lol

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          Some people just enjoy being around friends, even if they’re not actively engaging each other.

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      Because movies are dumbed down to the point that anything you can come up with in realtime will be answered eventually, or is a plothole.

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      You’re interrupting the movie and making people miss out. If all agree ahead of time to do a MST3K kinda thing, sure. As a compromise: pause the movie first.