• orcaA
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    2 days ago

    I’m in my early 40s and my one weird trick… was to not have kids. Sorry dad but this is the end of the line.

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      I’m in my thirties, child-free, work from home at a job I love, have plenty of disposable income and free time, have a passion for games and their development, and I still struggle to sit down and play something most of the time. I don’t even (usually) play games that expect regular participation. The struggle is real.

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        It’s the increase of noise in our heads. It makes diving into deep, story-rich games harder to do. It’s the reason I had 78 new games played this year alone. I skipped around on tons of stuff in the same way that my scattered brain does with everything going on.

        Programmer here. Both my wife and I WFH too. I was diagnosed with adhd back in the 90s and I find it just gets worse the older I get.

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          I’m also a programmer, and have long suspected I have ADHD. I have thought about getting an official diagnosis and trying the meds, mostly because I want to play games again, and I wonder if that would help me focus. I don’t have any trouble focusing at work most of the time.

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            The key is that you like your job. That makes a world of difference if you have adhd. I like my job too, but still struggle pretty regularly. It’s a day-to-day struggle. Some days I’m really focused and motivated, and then others are a wash. If you can get tested and try out meds, it’s worth pursuing. It helps me with social situations too and keeps me on task. I communicate more clearly, and I can complete tasks with less distractions. The only issue I encounter while on them is mood change. I have to be aware of it because it can make me get short with people. Not necessarily in an angry way; it just makes me super fixated on results and getting to the point.

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      You’re not wrong, but at least I get to experience games with him, so that’s fun most of the time.

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        That has to be super rewarding. You always have a player 2!