VenoraTheBarbarian

I think that’s going to be something personal to each of us. For me having medication gave me the give a damn to, for instance, make sure all dishes are handled before bed. Pre-meds I’d let them go “til the next day” far too often, with meds I was able to make a nightly rule that the sink has to be empty. When I had to go off meds that rule was still in my head, and I knew that if I didn’t keep the rule I’d undo the habit and leaving dishes in the sink wouldn’t feel “wrong” anymore. So I embraced that “dishes in the sink overnight is wrong” feeling and that carried me through til I got back on meds. (There was MUCH whining, both internal and external, lol, but they got done!)

In the last 8 months I’ve gone to bed with dishes in the sink probably less than 5 times. And that used to be a HUGE issue for me. But now the rule is engrained enough that I’ll plan my evening to make sure it gets done, even if that means doing it in chunks throughout the evening.

It’s been a slow process and I’m still not as put together as I’d like to be, and I probably never will be, but the meds are at least giving me a fighting chance.

I basically picked a couple things that felt really important (I brush my teeth every night now!) And found my internal motivation (I hate the way my mouth feels if I go to bed without brushing) , as well as the tricks to make sure I did the things (I’m not allowed to turn off the bathroom light til I brush my teeth, that way I can’t sleep cuz the light is on) and once those new rules are easy to follow I have the mental space to pick something new to add.

I wish I could be more helpful, but like I said, I feel like each of us have so many variables as to what works and what doesn’t. I’m also pretty sure I’m on the autism spectrum (I keep forgetting to bring it up with my Dr so I can get evaluated, lol) so god knows how that may affect things as far as habit building for me.

There’s a YouTube channel I really like, “How to ADHD” , she has great tips for habit building, and because she goes over so many ideas I was able to pick and choose the strategies that felt right for me.

Lol, those percentages are so accurate and it’s so sad 😂 Even medicated there’s a chance my brain just will. not. prioritize what we had discussed focusing on.

They help me push past my executive disfunction, most importantly, but also to stay focused and on task. They also kind of act as a ritual that starts a “Get it done” mindset, like taking my pill sets my intention for the day.

I had to go off my meds for a few months, and while my habits were harder to do, they weren’t impossible like they felt before I had built them. I was able to rely on habit muscle memory.

This was literally my husband’s objection to getting medicated 😂 It helped his anxiety, then he didn’t have the anxiety to get stuff done, so he thought he should just not be medicated cuz he was terrified he wouldn’t have the ability anymore without the anxiety.

Lucky for him I went through the same thing with my meds, but my answer was, “Use the medication to build good habits.” Which is the great wisdom I passed on to him (which I probably picked up from lurking ADHD spaces before my (and his) diagnosis).

Me, innocent: Oh cuz a central banker is pretty wealthy and powerful, and to only cover the crown would take a very tiny beanie 😂

Wait… Hitler mode? … 🤯

“Oh hey, remember (name)? They worked here like 6 months ago.”

No. No I do not remember that person. I probably didn’t learn their name when they were here, let alone retain that information 6 months later.

Now I just lie, cuz people do NOT like the implication that you’ll definitely forget their name in 6 months, too 😂 “Oh, yeah! That guy! How’s he doing these days?” While I desperately try to conjure a mental picture as they talk about That Guy. Usually the conversation ends with me still not having a clue.

I blame a lot on brain farts when the name I can’t come up with is someone who DOES still work here, “Fuck, why am I not coming up with this name that I 100% do, in fact, know??”

Really they should have been clued in to my horrible memory when I needed the phone number for our other store, that I call multiple times a DAY, to be written down near the phone because I can’t reliably remember it when I need it.

I do not get how you’re so confused.

It’s not that he was “entitled” to money, it’s that money would have made taking his handle less of a dick move. Elon is a multi billionaire, he could have thrown a tens of thousands of dollars at this dude and had a good PR situation for his generosity, and not even noticed the dip in his bank account. Instead the story is that he’s an asshole who treats his users like shit if they have something he wants.

So here we are, calling him an asshole. How is that confusing?

To add on to your comment, if we want other groups to work with us they need to feel comfortable doing so. I wouldn’t blame any man who didn’t want to protest side by side with women who say they hate all men, for instance. I wouldn’t blame men for supporting in other ways and staying home from the protest.

So if we want other groups to want to be next to us, we have the obligation to make them feel welcome and wanted. Imo. Anything less is rather unfair and unwise.

I love how these donuts are so comfy that they can be used casually for over-itching/licking. I’d feel so cruel putting a regular cone on my dog just for over-licking. But the donut, while it annoys him, isn’t so traumatic, or feel like as much of a punishment. Plus they can sleep with them on! Making them sleep in a cone is damn near heartbreaking.

Whoever invented these donuts is a genius.

If you haven’t already I recommend you go ahead and get her a donut. We got a donut for the dogs when our second one got neutered, and one for the cat. The cat ended up with an abscess in his jaw a couple years later, and I was very grateful to have a soft thing to protect that area with from the very beginning.

The one for the dogs has also been used again twice, for hot spots, and it was nice to already have it on hand. You never know when these lovable dumbasses are gonna get hurt, is all I’m saying.

… right. Because republicans control Texas and the grid. A grid that already killed people a couple years ago. A grid that people aren’t convinced the republican leadership has fixed. A grid that’s being heavily used under this heatwave. That just makes sense to me.

What else would you expect in the comments? I expect talk about climate change, the grid, and how republicans have fucked up both of those things. I don’t expect people to be saying, “Sure is a scorcher today!”, Or casual chats about lemonade recipes. Those days are gone.

🤷🏼‍♀️ He hurts the right people, I guess.

And too many people who would vote against the current leadership don’t vote at all. It’s been really frustrating trying to convince some of my friends to vote. Even some LGBTQ+ friends of mine don’t vote. I guess they think it doesn’t matter, that better candidates won’t win anyway. Voter apathy is a bitch, man.

Texans are worried because of the previous track record: The winter storm that froze people to death because the supply couldn’t keep up with demand. Our grid was incredibly close to a whole shit down, which would have killed even more people. All of which happened because the people in charge of such things didn’t prepare for a winter storm like that despite being warned that it was necessary like a decade ago.

And heat is no joke. So yeah, we worry. We have kids, elderly family and friends, pets, and healthy adults are also not immune. When demand skyrockets we get worried because people have already died and we don’t want to see that happen again. We’re also very aware of how often we’re told things are “fixed” when nothing has actually been done. So we cross our fingers, and we sweat, and we hope the grid doesn’t shut down and kill us. Sorry our worrying and upvoting of the topic bothers you.

There are lots of hobby communities, art, music, games, mechanical keyboards, fancy pens, gardening, birding, I could go on…

I find new hobby communities often on All. There’s also a community for announcing new communities, that might help you round out your interests.

If you go on the Lemmy website you can browse a never ending list of communities (some apps may also have this? Idk). And more are added every day. Lemmy is still young and growing. Have patience. Or don’t, I’m not the boss of you.

Man that looks so much like my missing black cat… if you happen to live in Texas let me know. Just in case.

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*Not taking a side, just supplying information.