I also agree.
While I couldn’t care less (it’s their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I’d be a little hurt if they didn’t tell me about it.
In that case I’d be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn’t talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.
I asked my AI and that was its thought also.
I had emergency cosmetic surgery after my accident and remember up to the anaesthesia counting down from ten to about four, and then waking up afterwards.
We aren’t defeferated from them. That’s different from hosting that content ourselves though.
I’m not personally against piracy, however hosting that kind of content here ourselves would put our primary reason for creating this space (that of providing a safe social space for trans and LGBTQIA+ people) at risk.
I just wanted to point that out before we get a whole bunch of piracy subs created on our instance that we’d have to remove.
I would point out that piracy is against our ToS, so we wouldn’t tolerate hosting piracy subs ourselves.
Oh goodness, why is this so funny? lol.
To be clear, $3k is an accurate, but unacceptable amount.
As in that’s what it’s actually costing us, but it’s not what it should be costing. I’d imagine more like $250 is what we should be paying if I wasn’t using AWS in the silly way I am.
I’m admitting up front that I’ve been more focused on developing rather than optimising operating costs because I could afford to be a little frivolous with the cost in exchange for not having to worry about doing server stuff.
Even when the Reddit thing happened I was wilfully ignoring it, trying to solve the scaling issues instead of focusing on the increased costs.
And so I didn’t notice when Lemmy was pushing a terabyte of data out of the ELB a day. And that’s what got me.
About half that $3k is just data transfer costs.
Anyhow the notice was just to let our users know what is going on and that there’ll be some maintenance windows in their future so it doesn’t surprise anyone.
We have a plan and it will all work out.
Don’t panic or have any kneejerk reactions, it’s just an FYI.
So this was at the very start of the s02e10 episode - “Pegasus”.