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snrkl
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Cake day: June 12th, 2023
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5·4 months agoCongrats - it sure is a milestone…
I was diagnosed at 44yo, finally got to a psychiatrist who said to me: you’re doing every single life hack/strategy we could possibly ask an ADHD sufferer to be doing to manage their symptoms… Did you want to try some medication?
I was like: “so that means, yes, I DO have ADHD?”
He just smiled and said: “yes, absolutely!”
I was so relieved to finally have some kind of answer I broke down on the spot, and had to defer the meds conversation till the next months appt as it was all too much at that point.
I’m 8-9 months in, and wish I’d been diagnosed 35 years ago!
My journey wasn’t anything like yours, it only took 12 months once I decided to pursue it, but even I had to laugh when my GP gave me a list of a dozen psychiatrists and told me to call each one to see if they were taking referrals…
I looked at him and said: you’re giving me a list of 12 things to do with no deadline so I can get diagnosed with ADHD… Isn’t this a terrible idea?!
Yes… I realised member everything in the shower… Even the things I remembered in the shower yesterday…
And have zero ability to get it into my digital journal…
You mean my thinking cube?
I do my best thinking in the shower… I have amazing realisations and form incredible connections between relevant life dots…
I just have trouble remembering the outcomes of this thinking once I get out…
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=at.cwiesner.android.visualtimer&hl=en-US is a free android version of a TimeTimer that looks to be privacy respecting, and doesn’t have ads, as far as I can tell… (Although I run an android variant that let’s me turn off an app’s access to the internet, so YMMV)
Built in tasks and data view for filtering.
Ping me separately if you want to compare notes…
I have separate logins on my machine for work vs home.
I also have my obsidian task manager synced on both machines so when non work stuff pops into my head, I add it to my list to work on after work in my personal task manager and get back to work.
I have a sacred 30mins at the start of the day to drink a coffee, and review my work task list, and plan what I will do today. From there, I ONLY work on what’s on the list, unless my boss rings me and changes the priority (or equivalent person etc).
As for not getting sucked into these things at all: I just avoid anything non work related while working, until I’ve achieved my list of work deliverables for the day, and finish work…
That works for me, until I have some work related YouTube video or equiv… I had a 4hr YT Shorts spiral the other day, was just lucky it started at 430pm!
I’ve since found that the DuckDuckGo browser let’s me watch YT videos without going to YT, so I don’t get the autoplay trap sprung one when the work related video is finished, which has helped a lot.
I’ve been using it on multiple devices for multiple years.
It works for me, and every app in want to use works. I’ve found that when they don’t, it almost always is broken on the stock OS also.
I just went with GrapheneOS on a Pixel… It’s as close to “it just works” as you’re going to get in my opinion on a device that respects your privacy. .
I feel almost 90% aligned to your story…
Was diagnosed formally in my 40s… Described as “super high functioning” by my psychiatrist, but really just felt like I’ve white knuckled the years from age 8…
DM me if you want to chat…
[Edited to add]: 90% of my coping mechanism were self taught and had large similarities to what you describe.
I have burnt out completely twice and the recovery taught me to develop better coping methods.
My recent diagnosis has given me the final piece to better understand (retrospectively) how and why I’ve operated and grown the way I did.
Medication is actively helping me overcome the largest remaining parts as my career has become more senior and exec function failings became more pronounced.
Unsure if that is helpful to you, but I’m also happy to chat more thoroughly in a less open forum if you’re interested or think it might be helpful.
It’s also OK if just knowing you’re not alone was what you were looking for…
smart watch with a “make my phone go bleep!” button…
I have a simple rule now: “in the case, or on my face”.
Sunnies on my face? Clear pair in the case. Clear pair on my face? Sunnies in the case.
Case is in my EDC bag… And DOES NOT EVER LEAVE THAT POCKET…
The ONLY exception is when sleeping, I have a bedside nose holder my clear specs go on.
THIS. Thankyou…
I’ve just had to explain to the 80yo grandmother that you can’t yell at my 19yo son because his anxiety ticks are annoying you.
She went full send on telling him that no woman or friends would ever want to be around him unless he stopped… She got even angrier because she yelled at him to stop, and the ticking got louder and more frequent… (duh…)
The only way I managed to get even a glimpse of consideration out of her was to leverage her pride in being a “baby whisperer” as a grandmother, and explained that yelling at an anxious ND about their ticks is like yelling at a baby to make them stop crying…
Only then did she stop for even a moment and actually have a thought about what was happening…
She still yells at him, but at least now we have a way to puller her back a little, as this description makes her feel terrible enough about it, that she leaves him alone for a bit out of feeling guilty…
there are ways to make it easier; it’s been gamified:
https://github.com/streetcomplete/StreetComplete
Available on FDROID.
When my partner stops to play pokemon go, I complete some Open Street Map info quests…
I’d love it if you could expand on this to help me understand better…
I’ve had meditation suggested to me many times, and I just don’t get it…
It leaves me wondering “What am I missing?”!
42·10 months agoEnglish language story from Reuters (no paywall) for anyone that doesn’t speak French…
I use routines and exercise “streaks”.
A 30min morning walk does wonders for my mental clarity and work drive.
Secret for me is to get a “streak” of contiguous days ive walked, and be really focussed on not losing the streak… Gets me up, out of bed, dressed and out for my walk.
Everything is easier after that…