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  • This is something that I had growing up. I’d always be overthinking if my friends really liked me or if I’m acting too extra etc.

    I’ve embraced my extra behaviour now and my friends don’t seem to mind and my view is why should I hide who I am, if you don’t like re me for me then that’s fine.

    Now my friends all know my quirks and there is some gentle ribbing at times, but again embrace who you are.

    I’m open about me overthinking and when I feel I as m doing it I’ll say so. They’re good with me disappearing for a week when I need some alone time to recharge and they’re good constantly fact checking them when they talk some bull shit based on vibes.

    I guess it’s true that as you age you begin to filter yourself less as frankly it’s exhausting.


  • This is how I got diagnosed at 38 and 4 years later my life is unrecognisable I went from having no less than 60 dead end jobs where I would just quit on a whim, be unable to get out of bed and just not turn up and get fired or not taking shit from some cunt paid 10p an hour more than me to talk to me j like shit. I’m replaceable but the company got a dead end job replaceable.

    I got lucky and was hired at Apple in the UK and worked the Genius Bar and they had healthcare, as mental health care is lacking here. With this healthcare and being surrounded by talented people and always seeing all these relatable memes lead me to seek a diagnosis. And I’m now a software developer for a great small company that treats us like people.

    I’m not perfect and the medication wrecks me so don’t take it often, but just knowing you’re not broken means a lot and routine can be worked on and you can get coping strategies.

    So yes there are tests you can do but I would seek a professional to help with this. As an example of what to expect, they ask a lot about your schooling and jobs you’ve had etc.

    The thing that was shocking for me is that ADHD people will develop coping strategies and you don’t even realise. Like I didn’t think I was hyperactive, but they have a test for that that watched your eyes and I scored hella high on that. My coping strategy for fidgeting is to sit on cursors like a lunatic, feet are not on the floor. I’m sat on one foot with my other foot resting on the seat kinda with my knee coming up near my face 😂. This is a hard habit to break and hell for your back.

    Go for it dude you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

    If you want to ask specific questions, as I’m conscious this is just a stream of thought, hmu I got you.








  • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.detoFunny@sh.itjust.worksLife at 40
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    17 days ago

    Use it or lose it people. I’m over 40 and I’m quite fit and healthy. Do lots of walking, running, rock climbing, golf, and enjoying nature.

    I’m in better health than my younger friends simply because I’m more active. See dudes in their 70’s climbing harder than me still and in great shape. You’ve just got to keep moving.