it seems you’re being excessively critical of the defining feature of the software.
you can go back to reddit if that software meets your needs better.
changing the federated nature of lemmy et al would just make it a different product. that product already exists and you left it for this one.
it’s like you quit the police force to join the firefighters and keep telling the other firefighters they should be stopping more crime instead of fighting fires.
that’s actually an accurate description of modern media piracy