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  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    5 months ago

    I don’t look for things to be either angry or grateful about I just get on with life. I respect that gratitude works for you. Personally I find forcing gratitude just drains me. I find I do best just accepting that sometimes I’m angry or stressed and that those are signs telling me something.


  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    5 months ago

    I’m a nihilist. I wasn’t thinking of God.

    IDK. I respect that gratitude works for others. I personally am not a fan because I feel we have the normal range of emotions for a good reason.

    For example: Anger motivates us to leave an exploitative job or an abusive relationship. Gratitude might very well keep someone in that relationship or in a job where they end up herniating a disk…because instead of being angry enough to leave they tell themselves ‘I’m so lucky! Other people have it worse!’



  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    5 months ago

    I find gratitude incredibly draining because it’s artificial and also it seems oddly guilt based. I would rather frame things as giving myself credit. I got tasks done. I showed self discipline. Gratitude implies I was handed something on a plate.








  • Voran@lemmy.worldOPtoGeneral Discussion@lemmy.worldI don't understand...
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    8 months ago

    I’m not mad I’m genuinely just curious. I cannot help noticing how on one hand it’s often men who lose their shit the hardest at the fact that I don’t want kids or a husband and insist that I’ll be unfulfilled to the point of sitting in a mental ward playing with poop if I don’t marry and have kids.

    Yet on the other… jokes like this are common.

    Why do some men love to push something they hate and makes them feel trapped?


  • I definitely see rhetoric about how picky women are and how we won’t just give men chances.

    Fair enough…I’m not fussed about relationships and unless you’re literally Daniel Naroditsky I’d rather chill in my comfortable armchair than bother going on a date. But why all this complaining if we’re just huge annoying burdens you need to be rescued from marrying?


  • Voran@lemmy.worldOPtoGeneral Discussion@lemmy.worldI don't understand...
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    8 months ago

    I understand that but the whole reason the joke is funny is that it plays on the idea that women are annoying burdens.

    I just find it odd that on one hand we hear so much about male loneliness and how we’ll be unfulfilled to the point of psychological annihilation if we don’t have a man and screaming kids to clean up after…but on the other hand we’re huge annoying burdens.