Moth needs to stop runningaway when I try to let it outside, I just want to help but I can’t help if I can’t catch it.

should be impeached

Impeached and then executed for treason.

If that’s what you took away from my comments, have fun I guess.

I told him the game focuses on the group and if he’s not part of the group then he won’t be playing, and since that first game he has participated, with few issues popping up.

I probably could have been clearer before we even got to the table that if you aren’t playing with the group then you aren’t playing, rather than just expect them to stick with a group on their first game.

I told him multiple times that if he was going to try and do his own thing, he won’t be participating with the group, and the group is the entire focus of the game.

I suppose I could have made it more explicit that he could join the group or he could leave the game.

I should add that that was many games ago, and he has since begun participating, although he often tries to go his own way and threatens to leave the group constantly, but so far he hasn’t actually tried leaving the group unless it was agreed upon for strategy reasons. (they split up inside a crypt in the most horror movie fashion possible)

let people roll to see if something happens

Oh god so many DMs in the past have done this, and I just roll my eyes every time.

Like I’m okay if you want to roll your own dice behind the screen to see if we get attacked overnight, but that should be the only kind of “roll to see what happens” going on.

I really need to do some kind of team building exercise before a game, something that they’ll want to do, but requires teamwork, just to demonstrate the point that they need to work together.

When my first character did the whole “I’m gonna be all by myself because I’m a lone wolf” thing, the DM let me go off and the totally unexpected happened and my character got into a scuffle he wasn’t prepared for, but a group sure would have been.

I absolutely used to be that “my character is a quiet rogue-ish type that definitely wasn’t modeled after Aragorn when he was introduced at the Prancing Pony mixed with Robin hood” who always “had to be convinced” to join, and nobody ever called me out for it. I honestly wish they had because that’s annoying as fuck and you miss out on playing an actually fully developed character.

Nowadays I tend to be less tactful that you are, but essentially tell people the same thing, or literally beat their characters over the head with ambushes.

I started running games for my wife and her niblings, and the oldest boy is getting into that “I’m such a rebel” phase where they think they’re bad ass for taking slightly longer to do a chore than needed and say “no” the first time you ask them to do something.

He thought it was hilarious to have a character that refused to join the rest of the group, so I said “okay, you can stay at the inn if you want” and then proceeded to intentionally ignore anything he was saying or doing, leaving him out of rolls, and never addressing him.

He’s 12 and started literally crying to his mother about how we’re all being mean to him. Apparently “he had the opportunity to participate and chose not to” wasn’t a good enough response to his mother. I stand by my choice. Although my wife managed to convince me to let him “rejoin” at the next town/session.

He doesn’t pull that shit anymore though, when he’s playing he’s playing or he gets shut out again.

Genuine question to anyone reading: does that make me a bad DM? If so, suggestions on how to handle it?

I’m a big fan of “you all wake up in loincloths sitting in a wagon, hands bound” and as long as someone at the table can roll higher than a 1, they can break free.

Or something attacks them while they’re all in a tavern

Basically I’m a fan of “you could ignore having your shit kicked in, but will you?” since so many players would stop at nothing.

Fallout NV had the right idea. “Where’s that little fucker who shot me in the head?!”

This movie was my jam back in the day.

I don’t care what critics or even fellow nerds say, it’s fantastic and if they want to fight about it they can meet me on Bob and settle this with heavy plastic swords like Gilgamesh intended.

Considering the channel owner is heavily left leaning, I don’t think it was them but they may be getting extra cautious about what speech they allow, given the current regime.

From my understanding, he has solar/wind powered well pumps, and a septic system he can “shovel out” himself. He had a covered box for deliveries next to his mailbox, and anything that needs to be dropped close to the house can drive straight in, I assume he plans those out ahead of time.

I just checked street view maps and since the last time I was over there he actually has a driveway now! With a gate across it.

Last time I spoke to him regularly enough that house questions wouldnt be weird, he was already working on solar power and already had a “battery wall” from 18650 cells cobbled together from surplus and garage sale battery packs. Had a whole table set up with testing and monitoring stuff for it. Apparently when the power went out, he could keep his fridge and freezer going for “almost a week”

I’m sure by now he’s gotten some of the trees cleared so he can have a garden, as that was also on the list of things he wanted to do to the place.

So he’s probably living as off grid as possible by now, while still using satellite or cellular internet.

It would be weird for me to just out of the blue start talking to him to ask more about it, we were never really “friends” friends, more “he’s friends with my friend so by extension we hang out” which makes it weirder. Not sure why, we just didn’t seem to interact outside of hangouts and group chats. Although if I’m being honest it’s probably because his family is rich so any time he went on about the stuff he’s “built” and “earned” it just rubbed me the wrong way.

But It’s a nice setup for sure.

Damn, I am a shame to my Spanish teacher of 3 years. That took me too long to figure out.

Lo siento, Señora K, yo no practico…

The French teacher at my high school grew up in France and moved to the US in her 40s, and loves to bring up how often she is in Canada and some places in Quebec, many people refuse to speak to her in French. Every year she would bring up how some places that speak French will critique your accent much harder than others, and you might not get the conversations you hope for.

She says she refuses to speak in English if she’s in a primarily French speaking area. Which if you live in a foreign country, I can totally see wanting to stick with your original language whenever possible if only to keep it in your mind. I can’t imagine living in a country that wasn’t primarily English speaking, not because I don’t want to learn and use another language, but because it’s a huge change.

Tns of respect for any non native speaker in a foreign country. It can’t be easy, even after years of immersion. Don’t apologize for your accent, you speak my language infinitely better than I speak yours.

I’ve never met a friendlier group of people who are absolute snobs about proper pronunciation, except English majors who are super into Linux (arch, obv)

Wow, I sure am glad I know where to avoid dirty mods for skyrim now.

I can bookmark it so I know not to go there!

I made some comments on YouTube over the last week about LAPD and Israel, and all of them have been deleted without notice. Not even a warning of “hey you aren’t allowed to talk about that” or “you violated a mysterious rule sometime”

But is it interactive?

Also I’m sure part of it for some people is the corruption of something that wasn’t originally smut.

Wow, that’s terrible! What mod is this? So I can avoid it? What a weird thing! That I’m definitely going to avoid and not go check out.