It’s hard to not make them sound trivial, but you’ll see some of them in the memes that pass through here. Off the top of my head though:

• the importance of routine/consistency. He got up at the same time almost every day for 50 years. He went to the gym before anything got in the way, that sort of thing.
• he pushes conscious decision making, of following through on things and being definite. Do not let yourself be guided by what you want in the moment, be guided by what you plan and intend.
• put things in the same place. Put things back where you got them from. Don’t rely on your memory, rely on your habits.

When I write these they seem silly and trivial, but they help me a lot.

It’s hard though. A key criteria (at least in the UK) how much it affects you day-to-day. My father probably has it and passed along a lot of guidance that I now recognise as coping mechanisms/symptom management strategies. Day to day I’ve got it in hand, it’s only when the big storms come that I struggle, and that doesn’t fit with the diagnostic approach.

I have this battle - I am great at routine but terrible at habit. My wife asks me why I do the same thing every day, and I can’t really explain that I have to do it every day or i’ll stop doing it completely.

Listen. Well done. Just because it’s simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy.

Now go and put away your laundry. /s

I can’t decide if I want this to have been written by an AI or not.

Part of the problem here I think relates to scale.

If I invite a load of friends over to my house for a party, they might be in different rooms having different conversations but they’re all my friends in my house. No one cares who I let in or kick out, certainly not either of the next groups.

Let’s say I’m part of the committee for the local community hall. We let our halls out to clubs. Some of the committee go to some of the clubs. I might not be interested in what it is, but if someone I trust says they are OK, I’m OK.

At the local University they have a lot of spaces, each managed by the respective school. Each school has a slightly different ethos. Some of them might let their space to groups that other schools wouldn’t, but it’s not their call. They share some resources but not decision making.

We’ve got this problem emerging. The decisions made by lemmyworld or other large instances are generally in service to their communities, whereas on smaller or more focused instances the instance level decisions are the same as community level decisions.

If you need a minute, put them down somewhere safe, and take that minute. Sometimes the crying gets to you, and that’s OK too.

I look after the strategy team for the CISO of a financial services company. I do enjoy my job, but I’ve swapped debugging IT systems for debugging organisational systems, and there’s a frustrating amount of baggage (financial reporting, process reporting, people managment) that you have to carry to get to that table.

I feel this. I used to have a job that involved popping difficult problems off the ‘hard problem’ queue, solving them and moving on. No one bothered me, I knew the set up and all was good. But it didn’t pay well, and now I manage people who get to have all the fun while I chase 30 minutes of focus in an 8 hour day.

I like to take it a step further - make the act of getting ready for the task a separate task. Other folks might see a single job, but when I have some repair work needing done around the house, I need a job to check if I have what I need to fix it, another to work out what I need to do, another to move it all to right place etc.

Without going to whole hog and hosting my own infrastructure, what are some good alternatives?