cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/15618832
Hey there lemmy, I need some help, I have this friend who is totally in denial about being a girl, she always insists that she is a boy but she likes to wear women’s clothes, style her hair, paint her nails, etc. She even talks about wanting to look cute and fem. Basically she’s all the way there, but she keeps denying her true identity, saying dumb things like “I’m a boy” or “he/they please”. I can tell she likes being called by she/her though because of how flustered and red she gets when I do it, especially in public or in front of her or my friends.
Please help a girl out here, how can I convince her of the fact that she’s a trans girl and not a boy? I tried talking to her about her fashion choices, how it’s not normal for boys to wear skirts, thigh highs, or a bow in their hair, but she doesn’t listen and insists she’s a boy. I also told her that boys don’t fantasize about looking cute and girly, then she gets all flustered and tries to make stupid non-sensical arguments about how she can still be a boy. I feel so sad for her, I just want to help but she’s more resistant than any egg I’ve come across.
Howdy there, I’m a non-conforming man who has long hair and wears skirts - I don’t identify as a woman and I was AMAB - I also don’t identify as a transvestite as I’m not wearing skirts to look like a woman - I wear them because they look swishy and I love that.
I am who I’ve chosen to be - your friend is who they’ve chosen to be. Let them be who they are or get the fuck out of their life.
Do you want breasts? My friend wants breasts, she also tries to make her voice fem too. It’s obvious she isn’t cis, she wants to look and sound like a girl