This is life, there are no guarantees, and randomness can create massive problems.

If you always look for a specific outcome (for what you put in as you see as effort), then you will most likely always be dissapointed.

The world sucks, then you die, so you might as well make the best of it while here and help your fellow humans along the way.

Are evil people negative? Pretty sure they are positive in a toxic sense

It is never about good and evil, only about what works and what doesn’t. Contributing towards others wellbeing above your own will inevitably hurt the latter, unless you are so unshakeably well established within yourself that nothing can ever even scratch you. At the same time to even be capable to improve wellbeing of others you need your own wellbeing taken care of

And yes, wellbeing does not mean consuming more and of higher quality than someone else, it means being well

Humans are socially engineered. Capitalism was created and designed to capitalize and corner. It rewards greed and selfish people often portraying the negative and evil characteristics. Our economy encourages evil people because they’re successful in capitalism. You won’t be a billionaire by caring about other people. All of them exploit a majority of the working class. The world right now is designed for bad people because economic success encourages negative characteristics. That’s why white collar crimes are a dime a dozen. Basically when you start with a turd and then gold spray it you end with a shiny turd. That’s why you always have feel good stories about some rich millionaire giving away or donating show up in news. Its news worthy to be rich, successful and a good person. Even though its basic human decency.

It’s not less rewarding but I can agree, more exhausting.

Religion doesn’t make sense to me either really, but stepping on other people to gain material wealth would not feel rewarding.

Can you maybe be more specific about how you want to be good in the world and let a little bit of the other stuff slide? You can’t fix everything, and remember YOU are also a person you should be good to. Being selfless is hurting at least one person.

If you need medication to sleep and feel ok, there’s probably something going on with your mental health. Not anything to do with whether you are “good” or “bad” just something to tackle so you can function in your life.

life is really unfair world.

The capitalistic world is.

right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does.

Most evil people are born bad.

tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes

What happened? I hope you don’t live in Palestine.

tried making friends, ended up ghosted

What happened?

tried save money, inflation happens

This will keep on happening if you live the US.
Best is to buy durable goods.

tried being nice, taken advantage of

What happened?

tried being honest, get hatred

Some people are mean and you’ll get hatred from no matter what.
Be honest to those you can be honest to.

But again, what happened?

tried religion

Don’t

tried theraphy,

Therapy exists because medicine for your ailment doesn’t yet.

tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.

Honest answer you don’t wanna hear?

If you’re good to reap a benefit, you’re not good. You just tried maximizing your own profit by this and failed.

Being “good and nice” is an ethical decision and will not inherently reward you. Being evil is easy, as it’s our native state of existence. Egoisim, egocentrism, anthropocentrism. A cold heart can’t take any harm.

Being evil makes life in an evil world (capitalism, humanity itself) much easier. Yes. But also you’re part of the problem, not the solution. Even though noone gives a shit what you insect (no insult, just emphasizing our insignificance) do.

You will never be rewarded for doing the right or good thing. Or extremely rarely. Mostly you’ll be ridiculed, scammed, made fun of, exploited and whatever else.

Personally, I don’t give a fuck. I am what I am, if anyone wants to exploit me, it’s their loss. Looking for equals is hard, but very rewarding.

Lemme quote a game (lol…):

“What is better? To be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?”

To be kind is to hope for and work toward a better world. When you are kind you do not naturally receive some “reward”, but rather give a “reward” to those you provide kindness to. The catch is that your kindness will affect a great many more than you will ever know or hear about. It is multiplied. You, every single day, benefit from the kindness of others whether you are aware of it or not. Kindness is not transactional. You give comfort and ease to those around you. The closest it gets to a transaction is that you may hope that by being kind you plant a seed in others that will grow into kindness of their own, which may in time find its way back to you.

Metaphorically, imagine a communal food pantry, where the food actually represents some abstract stockpile of kindness and goodwill in the world.

To be neutral is to bring a foodstuff you are less fond of, and take a foodstuff you are more fond of.

To be kind is to bring plentiful foodstuffs for others to enjoy, and take only what you need.

To be unkind is to take when you do not need it.

I know people have already hit you with the “kindness is its own reward” but it truly is. When I consider the profound impact on my own life because of the kindness of others, I am given the drive to try and provide that for others. What a joy it is to know that I may have helped someone get through their day just a little bit easier.

We cannot control the evils of others, but we can control the kindness of ourselves, and kindness can ease the pains caused by the evils of others.

Being nice isn’t about getting stuff for yourself

I think I agree with your observation. Simple example:

I tried reducing hobbies to image printing in alternative photography: CMYK… simple except that no matter what store you visit everyone already bought the M magenta. Specifically M122 quinacridone magenta because it’s transparent and permanent lightfast.

It doesn’t matter little thing we do, the orange asshole at the wheel is working to fuck it up. Now thanks to inflation I have to think about not retiring and maybe a second job. Just don’t get sick until you bite the dust.

Anyway, I think maybe you should just be as open-minded as possible to understand each misfortune for what it might be so you can adjust the way you are or expect. Like getting ghosted by a friend… maybe you are way tooo much and they can’t stand it. Maybe they changed something like got a girlfriend or boyfriend that doesn’t really like you. Maybe they got a second job?

Have you tried to just sit in silence? That’s rewarding as hell.

As a trans person get this so much. I’ve turned mean and dry as a person, specially to men. Somehow making fun of the men attracted to me gives me some sense of power I never have.

I’m late but as others have said, your logic is a little wonky. I would prescribe a dose of philosophy. Start with Plato.

So a bunch of the things you wrote have nothing to do with being nice. I wonder if you could provide a clear definition of what being nice actually is. Religion? Sleep? That’s got nothing to do with niceness.

But look clearly you need to think about who you’re being nice to. If a person treats you like dirt, there’s no good reason you should try to be nice to them… So I’m trying to figure out what your framing is, because maybe you took some advice somewhere and applied it recklessly and thought you would get good results.

Most of these posts assume that the goal for being nice and good is FOR the rewards. Like, “I donate to my homeless shelter all the time, and do I get any thanks? The HELL with them!” That is where it usually fails. The real trick is being strong enough to stay nice DESPITE the lack or rewards, or even inconvenience. You are nice and good because it’s a core of who you are, not just for flattery and incentives.