I was always the guy saying, never having kids.
Well accidents happen! I’m a year in and my daughter is amazing.
Just watching her play, babble and roam about the house is so pure. Her happiness is so pure! When I get home from work and she keeps wanting to pass me the same toy and laughs everytime.
I really don’t understand how she’s so beautiful, pure.
Unfortunately we had some birth complications so she was born without a right arm. The amount of worry, tests and dread we’ve had had been insane. But seeing her flourish and become a person is incredible, watching her experience new things or learn and new trick is amazing.
Life won’t be the easiest for her but I just want to give her everything.
Anyways, just a rant from a guy who didn’t see kids in his future.
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We had issues with the pregnancy of my first kid. Lots of scans and tests and surprisingly a textbook birth. Couple of years in a major operation and now she is as ‘normal’ as any other kid.
Mad crazy experience. Life is not easy, you will never have enough time or money. Just make it through as best you can. It’s great!
Yeah big time.
The scans and tests before is so stressful but seems a lifetime ago!
You sound like a great dad. Congratulations on the new kid. I hope she gets some cool prosthetics.
It’s so great to hear how you’re enjoying being a dad! Our daughter had a “minor” heart surgery around 2 months and all of the test before and after really are insanely stressful!
As an aside, I had a friend in high school who was born without his lower right arm (at about the elbow) and he was otherwise a total normal and goofy teenager. He’s married and has a kid and a great life. Look forward to that future but dang hold onto the little years because they grow up so, so fast 😭
I didn’t see myself with kids either. But life has a way to throw you things. Before I met my wife at 18, I wasn’t looking for a relationship either. Then years later, she started talking about kids, and… the idea didn’t seem that crazy, somehow. I didn’t feel that rush to have kids, but I wasn’t opposed to the very idea like I used to. I didn’t want kids so much as I wanted kids with her.
Not gonna lie, I had my doubts, before and after my son was born. I had many near-meltdowns when he was a baby. There were a lot times I doubted I made the right decision ever having kids. My energy levels never got as low - given, that was before I was diagnosed with severe sleep apnea and got my CPAP, which changed my sleep forever. I was convinced I couldn’t be a good parent, that I did the biggest mistake in my life bringing that child in this world, that I couldn’t take care of him like he deserved. Now? He finished kindergarten a month ago, is turning 6 in September and is going to begin 1st grade. We’ve also got another kid on the way, due late September/early October. As hard as it ever got, as difficult it ever was for me, the joy he brought us since he was born trumps literally everything else. I’m so proud of him for the little human he’s becoming. He has such a big heart. His creativity blows my mind every single day. He’ll be a great big brother.
If you let it, being a parent is one of the biggest opportunities you’ll ever get to grow as a human being. It changed my in so many ways. I learned about my own biases, the things my parents did that I did or didn’t want to recreate. I’m much less emotional/impulsive, learned that you can deal with hardship without getting angry and screaming. I got more patient and became more responsible across the board. I absolutely wasn’t ready for that first child, but I wonder, who really is? 🤷