I’ve got adhd, and I’m the one that can’t go into the store without browsing. My wife lowkey hates shopping with me because she just wants to get in and out. I start considering price, value, but also have to consider if it’s a garbage product or not, oh hey, do we need dried noodles? We certainly could, I love cacio e pepe, but maybe not now. Ah crap! I needed tomato paste! Back a few aisles we go!
My wife and I (both with ADHD) do both, and alternate who is doing which. We’re on the same page about 75% of the time, and practicing our communication skills the rest of the time.
I sure did. Before I even enter the store I’ve already drawn up a map in my head with a very clear path of exactly where I need to go. When my wife joins me, that map goes straight in the garbage bin.
Lol, I don’t even have a map in my head. I walk the same route every time, because I get the same items every time. If I want variety or spice in my food life, I can go to a restaurant once a month. The rest of the time food can be as bare, repetitive, and thus simple as possible.
My partner actually thought she was quick in 'n out with shops until she witnessed, and then had to bear, me in action. Organise list by distance from the entrance and keep the flow of movement as fluid as possible, to snake your way through aisles ASAP and straight to self-checkout. In and out. And thank god for self-checkout, that cut at least 5 minutes of awkwardness from shopping.
My wife’s always looking in the telling me aisle numbers and I’m like tell me the item and I know where to go (until they rearrange the store but that only takes a trip or two to refigure).
Yeah I have no idea wtf this meme is talking about. A lot of people seem to have this weird idea that ADHD gives you some immense ability to focus? When it’s literally the opposite. They hear about hyper focus and think that means you have some weird superpower. In reality it’s an inordinate amount of attention given to whatever is the most interesting thing to you, at the expense of focus paid to things you actually need to do. It seems pretty unlikely that the person described in the OP is extremely interested in a shopping task.
I’m exactly the same as what OP describes. I’m laser focused to get what I came for and get tf out as quick as possible as I hate shopping. Unfortunately my partner loves to look through the aisles to see what new products they have, it can be so frustrating but it makes her happy.
Yeah me too, which is one of the ways I know I don’t have ADHD. I’m straight in, grab the things I’m there for, visit no other aisles, don’t pick up any impulse buy items.
ADHD is about how they get distracted from things they should be doing to the point it makes life harder
Shopping is not a pleasant experience for us. The millions of products trying to attract my attention, the people I don’t want to talk to. It’s a hostile environment.
I always managed it by zooming through getting everything on my list in the right route.
My partner just doesn’t work that way. Hither and thither and lots of “just browsing” in between.
That’s all well and good, but it is simply wrong to claim that is a manifestation of ADHD. That’s not how it works. ADHD is a dysfunction of the executive system of the brain. It causes challenges in things like sustained focus and/or impulse control (among other symptoms associated with executive dysfunction). For what you described, I would just call that a personality trait and not in any way related to ADHD. In fact, it’s actually the opposite behavior of what you would expect from ADHD: sustained focus on something you don’t want to do.
As someone who has actual diagnosed ADHD for many years, it’s a big pet peeve of mine when people ascribe any random aspect of their personality to “ADHD” (if they even actually have it at all). While the specific manifestation of the disorder can obviously vary from person to person, they still all share the same basic traits in how the brain is working, and to associate unrelated things to it does a disservice to those that have it and are trying to understand more about it, in addition to undermining the broader public understanding of the condition and how it affects every day life. Mental health disorders have become a trendy new badge for people to collect on social media and spread all kinds of bullshit misinformation about. It’s so fucking stupid and tiring. It makes it harder for people who actually have real mental health disorders to get what they need.
I start considering price, value, but also have to consider if it’s a garbage product or not, oh hey, do we need dried noodles
Yeah, none of that is bad, but when my partner decides that it takes five minutes a product for each decision, I get annoyed. If you can’t figure it out in five seconds, the differences are obviously not a big enough deal.
I’ve got adhd, and I’m the one that can’t go into the store without browsing. My wife lowkey hates shopping with me because she just wants to get in and out. I start considering price, value, but also have to consider if it’s a garbage product or not, oh hey, do we need dried noodles? We certainly could, I love cacio e pepe, but maybe not now. Ah crap! I needed tomato paste! Back a few aisles we go!
I’m convinced there are these two types of people in the world, and they marry each other
My wife and I (both with ADHD) do both, and alternate who is doing which. We’re on the same page about 75% of the time, and practicing our communication skills the rest of the time.
I sure did. Before I even enter the store I’ve already drawn up a map in my head with a very clear path of exactly where I need to go. When my wife joins me, that map goes straight in the garbage bin.
Lol, I don’t even have a map in my head. I walk the same route every time, because I get the same items every time. If I want variety or spice in my food life, I can go to a restaurant once a month. The rest of the time food can be as bare, repetitive, and thus simple as possible.
My partner actually thought she was quick in 'n out with shops until she witnessed, and then had to bear, me in action. Organise list by distance from the entrance and keep the flow of movement as fluid as possible, to snake your way through aisles ASAP and straight to self-checkout. In and out. And thank god for self-checkout, that cut at least 5 minutes of awkwardness from shopping.
Supermarket speedrun any%
My wife’s always looking in the telling me aisle numbers and I’m like tell me the item and I know where to go (until they rearrange the store but that only takes a trip or two to refigure).
Yeah I have no idea wtf this meme is talking about. A lot of people seem to have this weird idea that ADHD gives you some immense ability to focus? When it’s literally the opposite. They hear about hyper focus and think that means you have some weird superpower. In reality it’s an inordinate amount of attention given to whatever is the most interesting thing to you, at the expense of focus paid to things you actually need to do. It seems pretty unlikely that the person described in the OP is extremely interested in a shopping task.
Yeah I don’t think a ADHD sufferer is going to be hyper focused in as visually noisy a place as a supermarket
I’m exactly the same as what OP describes. I’m laser focused to get what I came for and get tf out as quick as possible as I hate shopping. Unfortunately my partner loves to look through the aisles to see what new products they have, it can be so frustrating but it makes her happy.
Yeah me too, which is one of the ways I know I don’t have ADHD. I’m straight in, grab the things I’m there for, visit no other aisles, don’t pick up any impulse buy items.
ADHD is about how they get distracted from things they should be doing to the point it makes life harder
Oh man are you me?
Shopping is not a pleasant experience for us. The millions of products trying to attract my attention, the people I don’t want to talk to. It’s a hostile environment.
I always managed it by zooming through getting everything on my list in the right route.
My partner just doesn’t work that way. Hither and thither and lots of “just browsing” in between.
That’s all well and good, but it is simply wrong to claim that is a manifestation of ADHD. That’s not how it works. ADHD is a dysfunction of the executive system of the brain. It causes challenges in things like sustained focus and/or impulse control (among other symptoms associated with executive dysfunction). For what you described, I would just call that a personality trait and not in any way related to ADHD. In fact, it’s actually the opposite behavior of what you would expect from ADHD: sustained focus on something you don’t want to do.
As someone who has actual diagnosed ADHD for many years, it’s a big pet peeve of mine when people ascribe any random aspect of their personality to “ADHD” (if they even actually have it at all). While the specific manifestation of the disorder can obviously vary from person to person, they still all share the same basic traits in how the brain is working, and to associate unrelated things to it does a disservice to those that have it and are trying to understand more about it, in addition to undermining the broader public understanding of the condition and how it affects every day life. Mental health disorders have become a trendy new badge for people to collect on social media and spread all kinds of bullshit misinformation about. It’s so fucking stupid and tiring. It makes it harder for people who actually have real mental health disorders to get what they need.
Yeah, none of that is bad, but when my partner decides that it takes five minutes a product for each decision, I get annoyed. If you can’t figure it out in five seconds, the differences are obviously not a big enough deal.