This is why I date people who enjoy self harm.

Ok, but what if your worst is based on concrete experiences that occurred repeatedly over years? Of course it’s not their responsibility if it wasn’t them, but it’s not like you’re making it up. You’re not just coming up with shit for excitement. It’s ridiculous, but are you crazy? Is it really your fault in that moment? Are you just creating problems and not giving anyone a chance to directly address them because the whole point is to hurt their feelings? That’s the thing I’m getting at. Basically, we’re all in agreement. It’s ridiculous and they don’t have to handle it, but don’t give me shit about it like I’m doing it to hurt people or being selfish. It’s not “my bad”. It’s just “bad”.