Well, there is partial truth to this. Diagnosing especially preteens with mental health conditions almost always needs an asterisk, their brains are still heavily developing.

Remember that we know of no reliable genetic / physiological markers for ADHD, so when doctors diagnose it, they’re really just saying that the amount of symptoms seems to be severe enough. Some kids are just naturally more energetic, intelligent, etc. and may appear like they have ADHD, but when they develop into adults that might not actually be the case.

If anything, it’s more like 1/3 of kids were misdiagnosed as having ADHD, so they “grew” out of it because they didn’t really have it. It’s a lot less likely for an adult to be misdiagnosed because their brains aren’t changing.

Try to frame it like it’s exciting, not a failure. It’s fun that you have so many more books you want to read!

Haha, you’re right. I guess I should have written “then try to do thing A”.

If you feel like you’re struggling to accomplish a task, take a moment to think about your stimulation level. Are you understimulated or overstimulated? Sometimes just acknowledging it is enough, everyone has their own techniques.

For example, if I’m trying to work and I’m understimulated, I might throw on some metal music or something like that. If I’m overstimulated, probably means I should sit in a dark room for 5 or 10 minutes until I feel better before trying to do anything.

If you’re trying to do thing A but your brain can’t stop thinking about thing B, take out a notebook and write down all your current thoughts on thing B. Trust yourself that when you get back to it, you will be right where you left off. Then do thing A.

For example, trying to work on a paper but you can’t stop thinking about the season finale of your favorite show you just watched.

Doesn’t always work but helps a lot.

First of all, I think most people think about those things at least occasionally, it’s totally normal and part of the curious nature of humans and many other mammals.

You mention “I can’t ever just stop thinking and relax. My brain is so fucked.” which indicates that this is a real problem affecting your mental health. I think you could benefit from going to therapy specifically about anxiety, or at least start with implementing some of the basic principles.

Worrying about things you can’t control, or can’t influence, while completely normal, can be quite destructive. Try to reframe these in your head. Don’t be anxious because you might never know the answer, let yourself be freed by the fact that you don’t have to do anything about it. All those things you mentioned are really awe inspiring. Things to wonder and imagine. That could be a positive thing in your life, part of the great mysteries of humanity, not something to be upset about.

Focus on the things in your life that you can control. You can study, practice music, write stories, etc. So many many things you can control, so don’t be upset about what you can’t. Be happy with what you can.

Maybe you could directly transform your anxiety into creativity here. If you’re so consumed by these things, write a short sci-fi story about if the world was a simulation, etc. There’s a reason why people with anxiety or ADHD tend to be creative. Just an idea.

I thought I was far superior to people because I liked Pink Floyd and their music is actually meaningful and intellectual… yikes. I still like Pink Floyd though

I’ll start: Vulfpeck and Tool

I feel like you can easily find counterexamples that aren’t ironic, so this argument doesn’t make sense.

“It’s like rain on your wedding day” - This is not irony. Weddings are planned months, sometimes years in advance. There wouldn’t be an expectation that it couldn’t rain on your wedding day, that’s an understood possibility.

Because it’s an understood possibility that it can rain on your wedding day, it’s not ironic if it does happen, it’s just unfortunate.

An example that would be ironic, is if you are planning a hiking trip and you specifically go on Saturday because the weather forecasted it to be sunny, but it ended up raining anyway. That’s ironic because expectation does not meet reality.

Honestly, I hard disagree. Texting is so inefficient. If I want to have a conversation with someone, I just call them. It’s so much easier to just get everything sorted all out at once instead of trying to send messages back and forth and you get distracted and forget to reply. Meh. You can so easily turn a conversation that takes hours, sometimes days into a 2 minute phone call

Especially in online meetings with no camera. Without seeing body language, I often think people are done talking so I start talking, but they were just resting between sentences. Oof.

To be fair, the word butter is very vague. Shea butter has no milk, apple butter has no milk, etc.

Probably because “grunt” is a sound you usually make when unhappy.

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I haven’t managed to “convert” anyone to veganism, but I have at least helped to dispell stereotypes and spread awareness. Most people’s experience with vegans is just the extremely vocal and perhaps extremist ones you find online, calling everyone rapists and murderers. And look, I understand that there is some logic behind that, but if your goal is to try to bring more people towards veganism, you won’t do it by insulting people.

I’ve managed to convince most people that vegan food isn’t gross. I offer people little bits of vegan food that I make or eat and they’re often impressed.

I’ve dispelled myths about imitation meat being really unhealthy (not arguing it’s healthy, but some people act like it’s the worst thing you can eat). You’d be surprised how many people think it’s some lab made nasty chemical.

I’ve dispelled a lot of myths (always respectfully, of course) about vegan nutrition. Most people aren’t trying to be harmful, but they’ve heard a line or two online about how vegans can’t build protein, can’t get certain vitamins, etc.

Mostly, I think by just being a respectful and amicable human being, I’ve shown people that you can be vegan and not make your whole life about it. Most people don’t even know I’m vegan until we eat together and I have to explain it. I don’t want veganism to be some kind of religion or cult you have to join, I want it to just be a normal thing that people choose to do for the animals.

That being said, I do hope that I can eventually convince at least one person to become vegan, but I think trying too hard will just have the opposite effect. I’ll continue to live by example and hoping people follow.

The most popular take among vegans (and this is coming from a vegan myself) is that breeding animals is awful, but adopting an animal from a shelter is great.

There’s a lot of reasons that vegans are not fans of pet ownership, mostly because there are very minimal regulations in place regarding their treatment. I’m sure everyone knows someone who doesn’t treat their pet well.

However, once an animal is born into this world, it already exists, and there’s only two options. Either we can care for it, or let it die.

That’s why vegans are okay with adopting pets but not with buying animals from mills. Buying animals from mills incentives the breeders to make more, taking them from shelters doesn’t profit / incentivize anyone. Let’s stop making more animals but take care of the ones that already exist.

This is an absurd take. Vegans have to sacrifice a lot. I absolutely love animals and it’s insane to me that someone can’t see the amount of torture and murder of animals there is out there.

I decided to cut out, as much as is reasonably possible, anything that was made by or is these animals. I don’t do this because I want to feel superior, I do it for the animals. Most vegans don’t do this for attention. Just because you see some vegans shouting online doesn’t mean we’re all like that.

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Congrats on trying out veganism!

First off, based on your message, I think you might have a couple misunderstandings about veganism. Understand that veganism isn’t a diet nor is it inherently healthy. You can be vegan and eat processed food and imitation products all day long. Veganism is primarily an ethical stance - choosing not to partake in the industrial scale abuse and torture of our animal friends.

I hate to say something that goes against my own beliefs, but I don’t think it really makes sense to go fully vegan just for health reasons. Yes, virtually all nutritionists would say that people need to cut down and significantly reduce the amount of meat and animal products people eat, but for purely health reasons there aren’t many reasons to go down to absolutely 0. Plus, although there are plenty of benefits to outweigh the negatives, it is important to recognize that vegans can have a slightly harder time getting some nutrients, like vitamin D, iron, zinc, omega 3 fatty acids (most people struggle with these nutrients anyway, it’s just that vegans struggle a little more). And uniquely, there is virtually no vegan source of B12, so you need to take a supplement, or eat fortified foods.

I’m saying this because people who go vegan only for health reasons almost always quit eventually. Do it for the animals, but also enjoy the health benefits that come along naturally.

Don’t make these mistakes

Going vegan, especially suddenly, can take a toll on your body, just as making any sudden dietary change can.

• Make sure you are eating enough. A lot of vegan food isn’t as dense as animal products, usually because it contains a lot more water. The actual “volume” of food that you eat should increase quite a bit. Although I’m normally against it, I actually recommend calorie counting for a bit when you first go vegan (but do understand the dangers of calorie counting long term).
• Understands symptoms of suddenly eating a lot of fiber: One of the healthiest aspects of veganism is the high intake of fiber, which is fantastic for your digestive system. However, most people eat way too little fiber, and the sudden change from little fiber to lots of fiber can actually be a bit uncomfortable: bloating, stomach pain, diarrhea. Long term healthy, but maybe short term take it slow.
• Eat satiating foods: Vegetables and fruits are great for your health, but you have to eat foods that provide long term energy and make you feel full. If you are feeling hungry all the time, that’s not good. The overarching categories here are grains (preferably whole), legumes (beans, lentils, tofu, fake meat), nuts, seeds.
• Get your vitamins checked 3-6 months after going vegan: I just think this is too important after any dietary change.

Onto your actual question

The main breakfasts I eat are:

• Granola or cereal and plant milk
• Tofu scramble (can meal prep this easily) and toast, sometimes impossible breakfast sausage. To make good tofu scramble you need some unconventional ingredients you might not find at a grocery store, like black salt (kala namak)
• Beans and toast
• Leftovers from last night’s dinner
• Skip breakfast (or just eat a small fruit) and instead have a big lunch

I will occasionally have toast with peanut butter and banana on it, but that’s so calorie dense, I only eat it on days I know I’ll be doing a lot of physical activities.

This is actually a great breakfast. I understand your concern about it being calorie dense, but recognize that this is very satiating, and will keep you full and energized for a long time.

Also, don’t be afraid to eat some vegan imitation products. I promise they’re not nearly as bad as people demonize them to be, just don’t eat them all the time. I love impossible brand breakfast sausage, bratwurst, burgers, and chicken nuggets. In modern day, you can be vegan and still indulge in some tasty foods occasionally.

Summer. Especially at night. I feel like summer nights are always the perfect temperature, makes up for it being too hot in the day.